Message to Parents
you are reading this, you are among only three percent of American
adults who will search for information to improve your life. In fact,
you’re actually part of a small percentage of that group because
you are looking for information to help improve your child’s
life. For adults with desire and determination, the world is full
of various methods of self-help, including books, cds, seminars, programs,
and even private consultation with experts. Adults have countless
opportunities to learn effective goal-setting techniques, increase
intelligence, gain confidence, and become thinner and healthier, better
liked, organized, richer or more communicative.
sobering truth, however, is that the same opportunities are not
there for your most precious asset; your child, especially your
teenager. Teens have startlingly few resources geared just for them.
What time does your teen attend a class called “goal setting”
or a class called” leadership” or a seminar on developing
a great attitude? That’s why I created 10 Steps to Success.
I have been conducting broad-based research in this area with a
goal of creating programs for youths and teens that help them identify
and set goals, and to develop an attitude for success and the courage
to see those goals to reality.
Along the way,
I noticed that many parents who are highly motivated and talented
individuals themselves often give up in frustration after trying
to inspire their own children to achieve. Teens can often become
unreceptive to parental guidance and seem “lost” at
home, school and the athletic arena. Parents then despair about
why their children don’t seem to care about achievement, or
making an effort. Parents worry their children have self esteem
issues and seem to lack direction.
From my experience,
the biggest issue is the source of inspiration. Though it often
comes from the people who love them most, advice from parents pales
in importance when compared to the influence of a third party from
outside the home, usually a peer or coach, an entertainer or professional
athlete. A peer often doesn’t have the maturity of experience
to give good advice. And after seeing the poor choices some athletes
and entertainers have made in recent years, that’s a very
scary thought for most parents.
The goal for
most parents is to make sure that if they are momentarily not the
dominant advisor to their children, then they are comfortable with
the authority figures their children are looking to for advice.
where the 10 Steps to Success program comes in. Over twenty years
ago, I played my last game as a professional NBA basketball player.
Since then, I have dedicated my life to helping children understand
the power of attitude, courage and goal setting. Through hundreds
of hours of study and research, including tapping the finest minds
in psychology, neurology and physiology, I have learned a great
deal about helping children and teens improve their lives. And whether
I like it or not, the fact I was able to make it as a professional
athlete on the basis of sheer determination gives me a natural advantage
in terms of instant credibility with children. I achieved what many
of them want at that age. The funny part is that becoming a professional
athlete is easy compared to becoming a successful human being. That’s
what I want to teach your children.
One key challenge
at this age is not what children and teens are told, but how they
Teens are told
to study harder, try harder, practice harder, make better choices,
get better grades, use your head, be more outgoing, etc. Each of
these descriptions is meaningless to someone who has no frame of
reference or context. Concrete is “hard.” The wooden
basketball floor is “hard.” The messages our youth are
receiving are meaningless if they are not taught and given examples
of how to do these things.
Add to this
the complication that your children constantly compare themselves
to you, and they often find themselves wanting. To young people,
parents seem “to have all the answers” and to be very
capable. Everything young people aren’t. To your inexperienced
and possible insecure child, you can be a very tough act to follow.
10 Steps to Success program, your child can develop the attitude,
leadership, courage, and goal-setting skills to become even more
successful. How do I know? Over the past two decades, I have mentored
countless young people about these attributes in the context of
trying to improve their results. I have witnessed and documented
incredible growth in these young people on a personal, academic,
athletic and social basis. I know they are listening, and more importantly,
they are applying what they learn.
you wish something came into your life to explain the skills of
success when you were a teenager? How much better could you have
been if you had that little edge? The development of your child
is the greatest gift you can provide, and the greatest legacy you
can leave the world. Why not take advantage of this opportunity
to put these time-tested concepts to work.
Brogan & the Team